Regrouping

2 Apr

Something happened. And I want to tell you about that something, only I’m having trouble working out how to tell you what I have learned from that something, without the other people who were around being able to read anything into it. Do you know what I mean? Even though I have separated myself and don’t want to make any judgement – good or bad – about anyone else, just by reflecting on myself, it will appear as if I’m reflecting on other people too. Get it?

I’m particularly sensitive about it all, because in the aftermath of that something, I said something hoping to have one effect, but causing another. Tried to do a good thing, but made things worse.

Words are such tricky things.

Sometimes you think they are diamonds, but they are really shards of glass.

And howcome they sometimes don’t reveal their form until they have left you and reached someone else?

I suppose it’s the kind of experience that, at some time or another, will wrap itself in a cloak of fiction and present itself to the world. But I’m not in fiction-writing mode at the moment. I’m doing memoir.

Which, of course, causes me to reflect constantly on which parts of which of my stories I tell. I’m at the point now where I’m comfortable with the lines I’ve drawn. It’s about me and my dad and my mum, and sometimes me and my grandfather, so I’m trying not to mention other people at all, though the mister gets a guernsey, and the lads do feature. That means that it’s incomplete in some senses, that my parents are represented only from my point of view. But in memoir, as I’ve discovered, all of those decisions are a trade-off of some kind of another.

Anyhoo, I’d best be getting on if anything at all is going to be finished anytime soon.

This is really only half a blog post, isn’t it?

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7 Responses to “Regrouping”

  1. Deborah April 2, 2010 at 1:20 pm #

    Sometimes I don’t have anything sensible to say in response to one of your posts, but I keep on turning it over in my mind, and thinking and thinking and thinking about it.

    This is one of those posts.

    • ThirdCat April 2, 2010 at 2:08 pm #

      that’s a really lovely comment…thank you

  2. franzy April 2, 2010 at 2:00 pm #

    YARGH!
    THE SUSPENSE!

    I’m guessing that you may have had a need for the fabled Sarcasm Font?

    • ThirdCat April 2, 2010 at 2:06 pm #

      no, I flirted briefly with sarcasm some years ago, but was not robust enough to back myself up, and gave it away as something as I unsuited to

      • franzy April 2, 2010 at 6:40 pm #

        Oh.
        I get it.
        (zing!)

  3. planetnomad April 2, 2010 at 4:11 pm #

    The reason these diamonds become shards of glass is that everything we say is filtered through the grid of the recipient’s personality/background/mood, so that sometimes I wonder if communication is ever really possible.

    Good luck! Can’t wait to read this memoir. I’ve appreciated your thoughts on your parents so much.

  4. Pen April 3, 2010 at 5:55 am #

    I too can’t wait to read your memoir. Or anything else you write, actually. Your writing is so emotionally honest and evocative and present.

    Part of the reason I think I gave up thinking of myself as a writer (with concurrent not-writing as a vocation) was that I couldn’t cope either with the words that came out of me or the way I imagined other people could think about them. I don’t knopw if it was cowardice or honesty on my part, but it makes me admire you and your writing very passionately indeed.

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